By Darlene Powell Garlington, PhD
Anyone who experiences posttraumatic stress knows the pain and struggle that goes with it. He or she knows about the insomnia and fear it can cause, and the limits it can put on daily activities. But, what about the personal growth after someone experiences posttraumatic stress? Overwhelming evidence shows that people who experience trauma often build faith and courage that can help them grow stronger and more resilient.
These positive changes are known as posttraumatic growth (PTG). PTG enables movement beyond the pain, and helps people find joy in life again. This phenomenon seems to support the oft-quoted expression: “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” It’s important to note that this change for the better does not take place overnight. Usually, it occurs over time, and includes the support of family, friends and/or a therapist, and the necessary resources. PTG is an ongoing process.
Posttraumatic growth does not suggest that there is an absence of suffering as wisdom builds, but rather that growth can occur within the context of pain and loss. Survivors of trauma and psychological distress inevitably confront questions about existence that many of us try to avoid. Confronting these questions, and realizing a potential for growth comes not from the event itself, but from the struggle to make sense of it. The struggle itself may be crucial for PTG to occur. In trying to make sense of their struggle, individuals often realize the need to pull themselves out of their emotional quicksand and move forward.
Those who have gone through a severe trauma often become more open and flexible, and may branch out and tackle activities that were once quite stressful. Additionally, many who begin to experience PTG often discover a new sense of spirituality. They may have a new appreciation for life and find new possibilities for themselves. Sometimes, recovering from trauma causes people to be less materialistic, more patient, more grateful and even more compassionate.
People can gain strength from the experience of working through the trauma, and that strength can help them improve their own relationships. The benefits of PTG can extend beyond the individual and help the family.
As previously mentioned, help and support from various sources may be required to experience this positive growth. Sometimes, however, people fear the stigma associated with receiving psychological health care. There is a definite need to break down barriers to seeking help. Reaching out is not a sign of weakness, rather a sign of strength. The first step in getting help is learning if you have the symptoms of PTSD. You can find out with a free, anonymous online self-assessment.
Darlene Powell Garlington, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist, certified school psychologist and media psychologist who specializes in providing services to military services. She is a senior policy analyst at Altarum Institute, consulting with DCoE. She is the author of eight books on a range of topics ranging including parenting, psychology, and spirituality.
